Say something nice

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By Bernadette Lauritzen

Welcome to October and the asset category of support.

This category encompasses assets one through six and includes: family support, positive family communication, other adult relationships, caring neighborhood, caring school climate and parent involvement in schooling.

Our first two areas of focus are numbers one and two, family support and positive family communication.

I would like to draw attention to adult responsibility when it comes to being supportive and having positive communication with youth.

Do you reap what you sow? I know several adults who don’t hesitate to bash their children on social media and to friends, even when kids are within earshot.

I’m curious if that is beneficial in any way other than giving you a forum to vent? If you aren’t seeing an improvement by complaining all the time, change your tactic.

There must be something good you can find to say to try and buoy the youth instead of sink them.

I once heard a statement that you should never talk to your spouse or significant other any meaner than you would talk to your best friend.

Perhaps we should try this with our children.

There was once a cartoon where the dog owner was saying something like, “Did you chew this shoe Ginger? Did you knock over the trash Ginger? Why aren’t you listening to me Ginger?”

What the dog hears is, “Blah, blah, blah, Ginger, blah, blah blah Ginger.”

Get it? I think kids are no different. Once you start harping on everything that is wrong, it all turns to the Charlie Brown teacher saying, “wha, wha, wha.”

You would feel the same way if someone complained about your work, your cooking, your house cleaning, etc., all the time.

Think about it and try something better tomorrow.


 Assets In Action is a program of the Juvenile Justice Advisory Board and the Los Alamos Chamber of Commerce.