Bible Answers: Seeking guidance on dealing with anger

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“What guidance does the Bible give me for dealing with the anger I feel when I’ve been wronged?” — Chris

Anger is not necessarily a bad thing. A natural response to perceived threat or injustice, anger motivates you to fight or flight (i.e., to work to change a wrong or to remove yourself from a harmful situation.)
Even God experiences anger toward mankind’s selfish, idolatrous actions (Deut. 29:19-28.)­
A problem arises when you store up your anger. Unresolved anger leads to bitterness and
seething resentment, which will destroy you emotionally, physically and spiritually (Gen. 4:6-7; Matt. 5:21-22; Eph. 4:26-27).
Anger handled rightly should lead you to some introspection (Ps. 4:4).
Be quiet for a moment, search your heart and look for the root of your anger. Decide if this anger is really worth the trouble and look for ways to resolve it or let it go.
You may need to change some things about yourself instead of continuing in your anger towards someone else (Matt. 7:1-5).
Scripture is not simply a self-help manual with “feel-good” advice — it demands hard work from us.
The Bible points us to a God who is slow to anger and abounding in love (Ex.34:6), whose anger lasts only for a moment (Ps.30:5). He is a forgiving, reconciling God.
We are to emulate him in our own actions (Matt. 5:48).
So, in your anger, don’t hold a grudge, but rather forgive (Col. 3:13).
The Bible doesn’t let you slide on this one: love your enemies (Matt. 5:44). Instead of seeking revenge, overcome evil with good (Rom. 12:17-21).
Be proactive and allow anger to motivate you to do something constructive. It’s your choice.