Assets In Action: Resisting negative situations and bounce back

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By Bernadette Lauritzen

This week, we look at resistance skills and when a young person can resist negative peer pressure and dangerous situations.
Our local 2013 data shows only 48 percent, have this asset, which is better than the 2009 data capture which showed only 43 percent.
I believe that along with resistance skills must come resiliency and how we assist our kids in developing the skill of bouncing back.
You are better able to turn away from the ills of society when you get blind sided and still come out on the other side, when you actually get a chance to try and deal with some misfortune.
Our kids have to suffer some pain, in order for the success to taste sweet.
We must make sure everything isn’t perfect in their lives, or the moment they leave our side they won’t be able to cope on their own.
I learn best from people with a child a year ahead of mine. It allows you to see what they experience, for what will be a year from any given moment.
I try and take in the special moments because they are so fleeting and sometimes we get too busy to take a step back and watch the show.
Mesa Public Library has a slew of reading opportunities from a category called Resiliency Literature. Angie Manfredi will make a presentation to the Juvenile Justice Advisory Board meeting on Wednesday night and the public is welcome to attend.
The kind of book that comes to mind for me is, “Chicken Soup for the Teenage Soul.” If nothing else, it may point out for your teen, that so many other people have it so much harder than they have it and they get through it. There’s another book called, “It Will Get Better,” that demonstrates other journeys through life.
There seems to be two or three kinds of kids, the ones that thrive in any circumstance, the ones that bounce back and the ones that get dragged down or need to be worse for the wear.
As adults when children are young and as they continue to grow, we let them have their moment in the dumps, then we pick them up, dust them off and tell them to try again.
Life is hard, for every age, at any stage, but we have to keep moving forward, even when we are forced to take a few steps back.
Address a problem, lend an ear, enforce some consequences, win back the trust and then try, try again.
That is why we get them when they are so small, so we learn what to do along the way as well.

Assets In Action is a program of the Juvenile Justice Advisory Board and the LACDC.