After reaching adulthood, I learned a surprising thing about my mother: she was afraid of spiders and snakes. Lots of people are afraid of spiders and snakes, so why did this come as a surprise?
Because when I was growing up, she never once showed that she was afraid of them. When we would see a bug or a spider or a snake, she would talk matter-of-factly about it, pointing out its interesting qualities.
“Spiders have eight legs, but insects have six.” “Snakes are good to have around the neighborhood because they eat mice.”