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By The Staff

After a great response to last week’s column on entitlement and being above the rules, I’d like to take it one step further and get your feedback on the issue of bullying.

I hear about it a lot, everything from student-to-student bullying to parent-to-teacher bullying to colleague-to-colleague bullying.

So what are you seeing? More importantly what are you or should we be doing? What types of things do you believe could be implemented in a community wide plan to address the issue?

Honestly, if you’re willing to share your thoughts, I’m willing to keep your name out of the mix unless I ask you first.

Sometimes I think that too many people keep quiet because they don’t think it will make a difference.

I’ve heard people say they should just suck it up and make it through but I disagree.

I’m here to say that a problem can’t be solved if the right person doesn’t know about it.

I’m also saying it doesn’t mean every problem can be solved instantly, but if we don’t begin somewhere it won’t get solved ever.

Finally, I’d like to say that there are two schools of thought on the subject.  The first is to err on the side of safety.

Meaning, from time to time we become too politically correct to voice our opinion because we fear we will offend someone or offend everyone.

The second school of thought is to err on the side of ugliness, for a lack of a better term. Some people are so bent to get their way; they’ll say anything no matter who they offend or how angry they get over a simple issue.

Due to this second school of thought, you won’t catch me talking about politics unless I’m among close friends.

As a speech communications major, it is too easy to get involved in an argumentation and debate scenario on any political topic.

How does this relate to Assets this week? It is about diversity, which Los Alamos High School students celebrated this week.

It is about respecting people or at least tolerating their differences because they have every right to their opinion, beliefs and values that you do.

So how, and more importantly, why, do things escalate so that one person, youth or adult can’t tolerate someone for whatever reason?

Why have we seemed to lose a common decency and respect for our fellow human beings? Why does any person feel more important than another?

I’m not saying I have the answer, but I’m hoping you have suggestions. I’d like to know what you’re seeing and what you think should or could be done.

As a community we can’t just sit back and assume someone else will solve the problem. We have to step up and have a say.

It doesn’t mean you have to sit on a committee, attend a meeting or anything more than drop me an e-mail or a phone call, but we have to start somewhere.

So, even if it is anonymously for now, let the dialogue begin.


Bernadette Lauritzen is the Assets Coordinator for Los Alamos and her voicemail, sans caller ID, is available at 661-4846. Assets In Action is a community building program of the Los Alamos Chamber of Commerce and the Juvenile Justice Advisory Board. She can be heard  at  9 a.m. this Monday talking about Clean Up Los Alamos Day on AM 1490, KRSN.