Cancer survivors often tell lies

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By Kay Kerbyson

I was watching part of that new FOX Television series the other night, “Lie to Me,” and it struck me that anyone who hasn’t had cancer should be taught how to recognize those signals, the ones that tell you you’re not quite getting the truth.

Ever asked a cancer survivor how they are? What you probably heard was “Hey, I’m fine,” “I’m doing good,” “I feel very lucky.”

Now carefully look into their eyes, because if you believed them and said “I’m so glad, see you soon,” you’ve just been conned. They lied.

We don’t do it with malice, or to hurt people, or because chemo drugs turn us into pathological liars. We do it to protect ourselves mostly, but also to protect our family and our friends.

What I’m saying is that most cancer survivors do feel “great,” “good,” “lucky” most of the time, but a lot of times we don’t. But who wants to hear, “Well actually the chemo has left my feet hurting, I can’t turn my neck from side to side, I wake up in the middle of the night in pain, I have panic attacks especially when check ups get close, I fear my cancer coming back and I go in the closet and just cry.”

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